Soon you realize if you think and reflected well enough, how things could have changed as you yourself have similarly changed, your perspective different, your attitude conversed, your feelings switched.
I found how pleasing and accommodating I once was, then I got sick and disgusted with how little gratification I receive back because I'm not a saint to do things without any want for rewards. I gave and never receive. I was passionate and never returned. I was forgiving and was not forgave.